I am not necessarily looking for creampie either. If that is all I want there are other videos I can get.

When having sex with my wife I don’t normally come outside of her unless we have an “accident” while she is using her mouth on me. That can lead to fun laughter but doesn’t happen much because after 23 years she knows how I will respond. Also she does not head off to the bathroom till we have spent some time cuddling, touching, and talking. It sometimes makes spots on the bed but that’s OK.

Holding her as I cum inside her pussy gives both of us a feeling of great closeness as well as being great fun. When she makes me cum in her mouth and then spends an extended period of time continuing to gently use her mouth to give me pleasure I feel very loved. However, I understand that others enjoy different things and that’s fine.

The real problem is that the terrible pop shots in most porn have created bad asociations for me. They have made that seem fake to me, not something that a loving couple might enjoy doing.

I sent my original email after one hurried viewing of the DVDs just after they arrived. After viewing them again the way the man ejaculates does not bother me as much. Maybe because I was suprised the first time because it was something I only expected in what I consider poor porn or maybe because I paid more attention to the interaction within each couple while they were talking as well as having sex.

In response to other comments. Depending on pulling out for birth control or expecting it to help much in addition to other birth control is not a good idea. There can be a lot of sperm in the pre-cum. More than enough to do the job. My wife can’t use the pill or related methods for medical reasons. Getting a vasectomy after our third child was one of the better decisions I have made.

Some of my thoughts…

In my personal life and porn life where a guy ejaculates tends to vary on who I am with and what is the context of the situation. Birth control options play a role. I shoot porn most often with my husband and he usually ejaculates on my face because that is what we enjoy most and it is what works best for us in terms of the demands of having sex and working the cameras at the same time.

As a porn viewer I am not sure if a cream pie is much different than an external cumshot. To me if it is done with the emphasis on watching it drip out it is pretty darn similar to it dripping off a woman’s face or breasts. You just miss the shooting out part.

If you want it to be like real life you will likely get something very different than you see in most every kind of porn. When I used to be on the Pill and my husband came inside me you had me running with my hand on my crotch to the toilet so I could let it out here. I suppose it might be amsuing for one shoot but not hundreds.

Having said that, i don’t need to see ejaculation in a porno; i’d be completely happy with any ejaculation being ‘internal’ (if you know what i mean!), especially since it would more accurately reflect the diversity of people’s actual sexual practices.