A couple years ago we entered into a non-exclusive distribution arrangement with a fairly well-know company that specializes in placing sexually explicit films in mainstream markets. This is the blurb they wrote for Matt and Khym: Better than Ever:
“This adult instructional guide helps married couples rejuvenate their sex lives through the erotic experiences of real-life couple Matt and Khym, who explain and then demonstrate explicit techniques for becoming better lovers.”
I was horrified.
If watching “Matt and Khym” helps rejuvenate a couple’s sex life, I think that’s great. But the above description runs against everything these movies stand for; the dissembling “educational” language; the promises that somehow the secrets to a better sex life (and a better marriage) have been magically encoded in the DVD; the idea that medicalized, educational sexuality is okay, but sexuality for the sake of its own beauty is not.
We severed our ties with the distributor and set about the months long work of tracking down and eliminating this description where ever we could find it.
But if you know where to look you can still find it. Not anywhere people actually shop for our films, but it’s still out there.
And it still bothers me.
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Ack! We were amused yet horrified by that description; “Instructional guide,” indeed!
On the one hand, *anything* that depicts honest sexuality in a positive light works for us. But on the other, we didn’t feel that we had anything to “teach;” we just wanted to show folks that there is nothing shameful, dirty, or wrong about sex and sexuality, and that they are common denominators that unite far more folks than one might think, if one was to go by what is depicted as “normal and accepted” in popular media.
cheers,
Matt and Khym
Hello Matt and Khym! Glad to know you’re still reading!
The sad fact is, the only reason we were able to make the film we made with you is because of the honest the internet afforded us. We could speak in unguarded language about what we did, and people who were looking for what we had to offer could find us.
In light of these revelations about Google we’re going to have to re-think things. The loss of website revenue changes the financial calculus, and the price we’re paying for speaking frankly may simply be too much to bear.