A Tender and Candid Romance (An “Ashley and Kisha” viewer review on Amazon)
Tuesday, July 21st, 2009Over at Amazon, Daniel Rapheal gave a really really nice review to Ashley and Kisha:
This is a DVD that I wish everyone would see. Even the most repressed and biased people would derive some benefit from seeing this. The sweetness between these two young women is right there to see–and the fact that this is presented with their sexual feelings for each other, makes this a very constructive and hopeful presentation. The story of how they met and fell for each other is so similar to so many other stories–regardless of sexual orientation–that it is easy to relate to. It helps that, while they look nice, neither of these women is a stereotype of beauty. The greater part of their appeal is the emotional intelligence and genuineness of their mutual affection and attraction. It’s a good sign that a real-life story like this is widely available, because that in itself means there is reason to expect that ignorance and intolerance will be accordingly diminished.
There’s a special sort of poignancy reading this review today, because today I also read Ms. Naughty’s reaction to her first viewing of 9 Songs. There’’s not much I can add to Ms. Naughty’s reaction. 9 Songs got an X-rating from the OFLC (no public screenings, no festival screenings, highly restricted DVD sales) and through an expensive appeals process was able to get that reduced to an R-rating (the Australian equivelent of the MPAA’s NC-17 rating.) Apparently one of the reasons the OFLC saw fit to reduce the rating for 9 Songs from X to R was that they thought the people who were likely to see 9 Songs would be intellectually equipped to understand Winterbottom’s use of sexually explicit imagery.
A few years later Ashley and Kisha was banned from the Melbourne Underground Film Festival on the grounds that if it were to be classified by the OFLC it would likely receive an X-rating. How did the OFLC make this determination? By looking at the X-ratings it gave to my previous films Marie and Jack, Xana and Dax, and most notoriously Damon and Hunter, which was chased out of the queerDOC, the Sydney International Gay and Lesbian Documentary Film Festival with threats of fines and imprisonment made at the festival director.
Had Ashley and Kisha been submitted by a different festival (the Australian Center for the Moving Image) or by a different director (Michael Winterbottom or John Cameron Mitchell, or perhaps even Shine Louise Houston) or if I had a better class of friends in Australia (Margaret Pomerance or Alison Croggon for example) the result might have been different.
Of perhaps if I had used the usual ploys – “It’s educational don’t you know, and besides, it’s not porn, it wasn’t made with the intent do arouse. Nobody got an erection…” – well anyway too late for that. I was silly enough to think my films would speak for themselves. Now I know better.
I am exploring the whys and where-fors of all of this at TheIntentToArouse.Com and will be giving a lecture of the same name at NYU in about two month’s time.
None the less, I am extremely grateful to Daniel Rapheal and the hundreds of other people who have told me how much they have enjoyed our film, and to the thousand and thousands of people who have bought our DVDs.
Reviews like Daniel’s let me know that while I might have been stupid to go about marketing my films the way I did, I wasn’t crazy in making them the way I did. There’s more than a little comfort in knowing that.




























